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How to Grow Together - The How-To's

Last episode we walked through how couples develop alongside how they are both developing as adults. This week we talk about how to grow within your relationship. Fi...

How to Grow Together - Couples Development Cycles

This week we start a new series - Relationships as People Growing Machines. The first episode in this series is walking through the couples development cycle develope...

Diagram of an Argument - The Instructions

Now we look at the instructions - not how to put together the argument but how to break it down so you can sidestep it and communicate in a new way.

Diagram of an Argument - The Diagram

The Diagram is typically called the negative cycle, pattern, or dance. This is an important step to better understand how you can find connection in your relationship ...

Diagram of an Argument - The Materials

What makes up the materials in an argument? It's the two of you. First, it's based on adult attachment and how that works on you both in your relationship. Next, it...

Diagram of an Argument - Overview of the Elements

Welcome to Season 2! In this season, I start with diagramming an argument - breaking arguments down to their elements so you get a chance to see what is really happen...

Divorce Proof Series - Turn Towards Your Relationship

Today's podcast continues the Divorce Proof Your Marriage series. Turning Towards Your Relationship seems so obvious. But, when stonewalling creeps into your relatio...

Divorce Proof Series - Assume Positive Intent

Today's podcast continues the Divorce Proof Your Marriage series. As we continue to learn more about how to strengthen the friendship aspects of your marriage, I disc...

Divorce Proof Series - Benefit of the Doubt

Today's podcast continues the Divorce Proof Your Marriage series. As we focus on how to strengthen the friendship aspects of your marriage, I discuss how offering Ben...

Divorce Proof Series - Setting Your Partner Up for Success

Today's podcast continues the Divorce Proof Your Marriage series going further into how to strengthen your friendship. This episode's focus is setting your partner up...

For Couples Who Want to Divorce-Proof Their Relationship

Today's episode ends the series on Six Ways to Break the Tension after an Argument and starts a new series. This is about bringing in a deep, committed friendship to ...

Step 5: Put Aside Time for the Two of You

This week's episode is step five of the six step process to break the tension after an argument. Step five is putting aside time for the two of you - a time that's cal...

Step 4: Communicating to be Heard

Communicating to be Heard is taking Steps 1-3 and pulling each of these together to share with your partner and break the tension after the argument. I discuss why co...

Step 3 - Keep it with You

Step 3 explores what you were feeling in the argument. It's hard to know the ways you could have been hurt by your partner and how to express it so your partner can h...

Step 1: Take Your Part

Looking at how you can change and be ready to have an intention to change and grow into your relationship.

Six Ways to Break the Tension after an Argument

This episode begins a series on Six Ways to Break the Tension after an Argument.

Step 2: See It from Your Partner's Perspective

Learn the importance of offering your partner empathy. Because if you accept your partner is human, it gives you permission to be human too.